Vincent A. – Denver, CO

Let me start by saying that I am a married man age 43 and have been married now for over 13 years. I have 2 great children and 4 pets and live in a nice house. Let me back up a little now and tell you that when I was 8 years old my parents got divorced. I did not know what was happening. All I knew was that daddy was not going to live with us anymore. I was am emotional wreck and I was scared. Later in life I found out the reason for my parents divorce and it pretty much was all my mother. I found out that she was an emotionally unstable person, not one that needed medication but was just not a nice person to be around. I now no longer speak to my mother after putting all the pieces together and finding out what a bad parent she really was. I was fooled for many years as a child when my dad moved out. This particular divorce in my opinion could not be prevented, but let me now go into my opinion on how you can prevent a divorce. First let me say that people these days are getting married way to quickly after meeting each other. For me it was over 2 years before me and my wife were married. I see people getting married after just 2 damn weeks, and guess what my mother got remarried just 3 months after meeting a guy that she went to high school with. She is still married to him but she now know he is a chain smoker and an alcoholic. I think people need to be together for at least a year or 2 and know each other inside and out and to be able to put up with anything the other person may annoy you with. You have to have good communication with each other. With no communication you are set up for failure. You must actually love each other and not do it just because you are getting old and want kids. Do that and you may end up like me. Having a kid who will not speak to their own parent. This is sad and maybe one day I can talk to my mother again but right now it seems like a long way off. If you are married and you have kids obviously a newborn child will take over on all priorities including yourself, so if you feel that you are being ignored you must be understanding of each other and know what the priorities in life are. The children come first as far as I am concerned and that is what a parent is all about. The caring and nurturing of a newborn and one day they grow up to be a good person. That is what we all want out of life. A good marriage, and good children. Showing your children that you as parents love each other is also important because as that child gets older they will see how their parents were and know what needs to be done to prevent a divorce in their own lives. Hopefully I have made some good points here and good luck to any who are getting married anytime soon.

Vincent A. – Denver, CO